Notes from our Dating class at Cary Senior Center, October 25, 2019

See also the Relationship section of this website

We’re talking about this from a heteronormative perspective, but keep in mind that this goes for all varieties of relationships, ie. (LGBTQ, Non-monogamous)

Heteronormative: a world view that promotes heterosexuality as the normal or preferred sexual orientation.

IceBreaker: We broke into 3 groups and asked the following questions to get people thinking.

Who/what are you looking for? Friend? Companion? Friend with benefits? Sexual partner? Roommate? Life partner? Soulmate? Marriage?

There are no rules. What you are looking for will probably change as you meet people, but the core of it must still be good for YOU.


Meeting in real life:

A good question to ask: "Is there any reason I shouldn't ask you out?"

Online dating:

First Date: You are auditioning for a Second date, not the Rest of Your Life.

Sexually Transmitted Infections

NRE (New Relationship Energy or Limerence) refers to a state of mind experienced at the beginning of sexual and romantic relationships, typically involving heightened emotional and sexual feelings and excitement. NRE begins with the earliest attractions, may grow into full force when mutuality is established, and can fade over months or years. Almost all of us started previous relationships that way. The trick is to be aware of what is happening.

Great article from Kendra Holliday Crazy Little Thing Called Love... No... Limerence